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I started this blog in an effort to track my experiences with pregnancy and beyond. Writing is therapeutic. Kind of like talking to myself without the people in WalMart thinking I'm crazy. If you find some entertainment in this along the way, then even better!

This is one woman's journey through unfathomable hunger, vivid sex dreams and a bulging belly...from conception to birth in 9 months or less...

Tomorrow I am 35 weeks, say WHAT NOW?

Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Yes, exactly. How in the hell did that happen? I remember those excruciating first 12 weeks like they were yesterday. And really, it was only 7 weeks since I was 5 weeks 1 day when I peed on the stick that told me we had finally made a baby. And yet NOW, I'm almost 35 weeks?!?!?!?!? That's a mere 5 weeks from due date, and an entire 1 week PAST when my niece arrived. Translation? This baby could technically choose to vacate the ute at ANY TIME NOW.

Ok so I suppose that's always a possibility, but let's think about this for a minute. Some people are keeners. You know, those early rising types who say things like "I just love running at 530 in the morning, it's so calm and peaceful". Yes, of course it is you nutbar, you're the ONLY PERSON ON THE PLANET who willingly got out of bed at that time. Everyone else who is outside, it pretending to be awake, on their way somewhere they don't want to go, frantically looking for coffee. These are the kinds of people who consider "sleeping in" when their internal alarm clock (because these are also the people who don't need an alarm clock because they just "wake up naturally with the sun") has them sleeping past 8:00am on a Sunday. These are the people the hubs hates, and I don't wish to be.

Don't get me wrong. I will cease the day with the best of you, when there is something to be ceased. But I also enjoy those days where my internal clock can wake up, think "fuk fuk fuk I am late for work", then realize it's Saturday and I can roll over for another few hours. I still get up before noon, and generally in the single digit hours. The hubs on the other hand, he's the other end of the spectrum. He get's up in the single digit hours too, but they are not the ones that happen before noon.

Anyway, I digress as always. My point IS, my daughter may well be a keener, and think it's as good a time as any to be born. Carpe Diem and all that jazz. I mean, why not right? I am a go go go type. A never stop moving type. A "I can do it all and a bag of chips" type, who is always 10 seconds away from a completely overwhelmed breakdown, but who generally gets through things flawlessly and in good time. If she's got that streak, that part of her, that raging A-type side, there is nothing to say she won't channel it into a keener mentality, and decide to rocket out of my body ahead of schedule.

I am keenly aware of how not on a schedule a baby is, even from conception. And I realize that this "due date" is an arbitrary timeline put on me, so I have something concrete to obsess over. Obviously due dates are about norms and statistics, but of course, there are standard deviations in everything, and pregnancy is anything by normal. So I know that I am entering the grey area. That period of time where, fewer first time moms go into labour, but many second time and beyond moms do. The time where that pesky back ache or more intense Braxton Hicks may be something a little more serious. The time in which, my baby could decide she wants out. And there would be no reason to try to stop her.

In general, I am not scared of the prospect of having her in my arms. Petrified is probably a better word. Just kidding. While I am nervous about the first few moments of motherhood, I do strongly believe I possess the instincts that will allow me to keep her happy and healthy. And that's really all I can hope for at this point. Well adjusted and highly intelligent I will work out later. But just because I am not afraid does not mean I am prepared.

First of all, I am not DONE with pregnancy. Sure, I had a day last week where my feet swelled up to the size of tree trunks and I thought I may never walk normally again (I am now convinced the pregnancy waddle is not a result of widening hips, but of stumpy feet). Sleeping has started to become hit or miss. I have great sleeps still a lot of the time, but I also have nights where night sweats, bizarro dreams and burning excruciating hip pain join forces with needing to pee bi-hourly, to ensure I get a taste of newborn life in advance of her arrival. And sure, I am getting more and more comments about how huge I am, and the boys at work are starting to feel sorry for me for "carrying all that extra weight around". If only they knew HOW much. And maybe, between 33 weeks and 34 weeks, I gained an astonishing 4.5 POUNDS and almost passed OUT at the number, and have an insane amount of fear about what that scale will say tomorrow.And just perhaps I would enjoy a cold beer with my dinner, or a glass of wine before bed. However, with all these things going on, I am not done with being pregnant. I am still loving every moment of it. Even when she's got, from what I can tell, her big toe pushing out a rib and causing me pain, or she's practicing tai bo on my cervix, I enjoy it. Maybe I enjoy it less at that moment, but I still have not hit that wall of "I AM SO OVER BEING PREGNANT" yet.  I attribute this in a large part to the fact I am not 8 months preggo in the summer. Those with summer babies, you've got an entirely different experience on your hands.

Second of all, I am still working. I did this on purpose after friend upon friend shared with me their experience of being 8 days past due, and so insanely bored and frustrated. Taking off from work too early just means that if you DO go passed the illusive due date, you will go fuking bananas. Leaving work at say, 35 weeks, would leave me with a possible 7 weeks off, and no baby to care for, so I've chosen to leave at 37.5. This is great for saving me from that long stretch of anticipation and waiting, but not great for me feeling ready and prepared for her to come. I need to finish training my replacements. Yes, there is an S there because, we have hired 2 people to fill 1 pair of my worky shoes. The same shoes I could have used last week when my stump feet had me calling the hubs to bring me some runners. And I need to mentally separate work me from mom me before she comes. I had NO idea I identified with my job so much before I contemplated leaving it for an ENTIRE YEAR (yes I am SOOOOOOOO lucky to live in Canada!!!), nor did I realize how hard it would be to walk away from all the hard work I've put in, and leave it up to someone else to carry on. So, I need to get to that point, that date I set of March 12, to put my career on hold and enter the world of mom. I need it mentally more than anything. It's a milestone in my mind, and I think it's the only way I can get through this transition with any semblance of sanity.

And finally, I need a little ME time before she comes, so I can be the best mom to her from the moment she arrives. I need to have a little time and space between shelving work me, and becoming mom me, where I can sleep in, wash her clothes, do prenatal yoga and take in my life as I currently know it. It might sound selfish, and maybe it is, but I don't care. I just want to have a breather between the insanity that is my daily work life, and the complete unknown that will become my mom life. I need to take a little time to centre myself, before embarking on a new adventure. I need to clean the floors and prep the foods, and sip a decaf latte at the speed in which it was intended to be enjoyed. I need to hover in that free space, where I almost don't belong anymore.

So no, I am not ready. And hitting 35 weeks is causing me some angst and discomfort in the chest region. And not just from these giant C-cups I'm suddenly sporting (uh ya, when you fake a B cup your entire life, a C cup IS a huge deal...just saying). I am sure if we fast forward to the post that will come in 3 weeks, it will be "GET THIS BABY OUT OF ME WHY WON'T SHE JUST BE BORN I AM SO DONE WITH PREGNANCY" and I will revisit this and think, 34.6 week me, what WERE you THINKING?!?!

But for now, I'm enjoying my pregnancy and I just want her to hold on, for 5 more weeks (but not 7, ok?).

8 comments to Tomorrow I am 35 weeks, say WHAT NOW?:

The Wifey said...

Haha. Your bit about people with summer babies being -so- ready to be done with it made me chuckle. I was that summer prego, definitely. -lol-.

Amber Page Writes said...

Oh, I am just so consumed with jealousy that in Canada you get a YEAR! But seriously, enjoy every magical minute left. There's nothing like it...

Kt said...

I hope I continue enjoying my pregnancy as much as you seem to be! And yes, from everything I've heard, I'm sure you will reach a breaking point. But I think it's a good thing when you get to that point - it means you're truly ready!

Shell said...

Good luck!

I "took off work" thinking that I would have about 2 weeks or so to relax and get everything organized before the baby was born. Left work on Friday afternoon- had baby boy Saturday morning.

The Mommyologist said...

I am laughing because you were mortified at gaining 4.5 pounds at one of your doctor visits. There were two times that I went in and had gained 11 pounds in four weeks!! I about fell off the scale the first time it happened!

jss said...

Term I don't use enough? "vacate the ute". Oh my god, I die. I had to stop reading at that point because I couldn't stop giggling.

Oh, and you're sporting C cups? Wanna trade, because I'm soon going to have to bite the bullet and transition to an F cup. ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? THEY MAKE F CUPS??

Anyway, I keep thinking as soon as I hit the home stretch I'll be ready for the little man to arrive any time, but you're right, it's good to remember to transition from "regular me" to "mom me". Ha...get it...mom me...mommy. Oh my god, I'm hilarious.

I probably shouldn't have had that half a cup of caffeinated coffee this morning. It's making me crazy.

Babe_chilla said...

The Wifey - I am now cursing people who are preggoo in the summer, because my feet are getting SO big and I want to wear flip flops!

Amber - I am thankful EVERY DAY that we get an entire year off. I couldn't be more lucky (well unless I got it off with full pay but, that would be crazy talk).

Kt - I figure I will cross that path, where I'm like "ok baby, get OUT" and that should hopefully quell my fears of not being ready :D

Shell - AHH don't tell me that ;) Was that with your second?

The Mommyologist - you misunderstood, I gained 4.5 pounds from Wednesday to Wednesday! Which mean, if it was 4 weeks, at that rate I'd of gained 18 lbs! 11 would seem like nothing in comparison to that hahahah!!

jss - This has been the one time in my life I've been happy with my B cups. My BFF has like, G cups before preggoness, so you can imagine what happened to her when she got preggos? I don't envy chesty girls anymore!!

HA mom me, awesome!

cheekymama said...

Funny post, I too love 'vacate the ute'. Classic. Reading your words really takes me back..and it ain't pretty! LOL

Both my boys were slow coaches and those last few days of doing anything you can think of to bring them out drove me nuts (and still nothing worked!) You're wise to keep on working and to try and enjoy the last of your 'only me' time.

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